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Is blood really thicker than water?

  • Mar 3
  • 2 min read

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We've all heard the saying: Blood is thicker than water. It speaks to the deep value of family bonds. But how often does this actually go both ways?


When family support feels one-sided

  • Is blood thick enough to recognize that you've been working tirelessly, yet have little to show for it personally? Or that your growth comes with the unspoken expectation of taking on even more family responsibilities?

  • Is it thick enough for you to receive a random social call—just to check in—rather than calls that only come with requests and reminders that you’re all they’ve got?

  • Is it thick enough to sincerely celebrate your achievements, without guilt-tripping you for not stepping in on one occasion to fix a situation that could have been avoided


Are you carrying more than your share?

  • Is it thick enough for family to remember that you are an equal among your siblings and that you are not responsible for their bad choices?

  • Is it thick enough to support you when you finally say, “for a while I’ve been consistent with my family responsibility e.g. sending money home, building or renovating our parents house and that it is now time you reduce your contribution to focus on yourself”?


Essentially, is blood thick enough to be a safe space where you can openly admit that you're drowning in debt or struggling psychologically, and actually receive the support you need?


What happens if you stop giving?

Moreover, here's a tough one: Have you ever wondered what would happen if you suddenly lost your income?


If this has always been a one-way street relationship—and for the longest time thriving only because you put your needs aside to prioritise theirs—would blood still be thicker than water in your time of need?


Setting boundaries is an act of love

Let me be clear: I'm not saying abandon your family responsibilities. I'm saying make them sustainable so you can feel fulfilled, not resentful.


Blood is thicker than water, but where do we draw the line when it's no longer mutually beneficial?


Maybe it's time to set those boundaries and communicate them. Not out of rebellion, but out of love and care. I know this isn’t easy. You’ve probably avoided this crucial step because of the emotions that come with it:

  • You shake, you cry, because you care. You don’t want to lose them. You hope they will understand and help protect the relationship by respecting where you’re coming from.

  • You feel guilty… but the more boundaries you set, the easier it gets.


Breathe. You Matter Too.

So when the time comes for this difficult conversation, take a deep breath. Exhale slowly. Let your heartbeat remind you: You matter too.



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